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Woman Closing EyeIn the previous two articles, I gave you an introductory description on the increasing number of educated people who believed in reincarnation, and of how I became involved with past-life therapy starting from 1988.

I consider the knowledge, skills and experience I accumulated from past-life therapy sessions in the past 24 years as a gift.  Because of this gift, I am able to help my clients transform their relationships with themselves and/or others when their other healing processes reached a plateau.  The following is a good clinical example:

June, an attractive, intelligent, 32-year-old woman, came to me with symptoms of chronic fatigue, allergies, bloating and eating disorders.  She also suffered from depression and low self-esteem because she was out of a job.  When she experienced spurts of emotional eating, she often stuffed herself with foods containing sugar, dairy, wheat and yeast.  During those binging episodes, she ate so fast and so much that her jaws and stomach hurt.  After she was put on the anti-yeast nutritional program, she would still binge on healthy food from time to time.  Portion-control was a serious problem for her.  Knowing that she believed in reincarnation and that she had been meditating, I suggested past-life therapy be used as a technique to release some of her deep emotional issues.  She was thrilled to try it.

After a deep breathing and induction procedure, the following was revealed: June “saw” herself as an old, female beggar in England during the 14th century.  Most of her life she was starved.  One time, there was a festival in the countryside.  She sneaked into the crowd and stuffed food into her mouth as fast as she could for two reasons:  she had been starved and she was afraid that people might ask her to leave as soon as they spotted her.  She ate so fast that her jaws and her stomach hurt.

Through reprogramming, June was able to let go of the traumatic experience associated with food and allow positive images to stay with her.  In the process of reprogramming, I suggested that she “see” herself formally invited to the festival and eating slowly with grace and moderation.  She enjoyed the food and the event.  She also enjoyed the abundance of resources.  A few weeks after this past-life therapy session, she reported that she found a new job that was something she liked doing and also paid well.  Also, her eating habits dramatically improved.

To account for her low self-esteem or not loving herself, a few more past life therapy sessions were rendered.  She “saw” the following scene: A little girl was drawing an apple at a table.  After she finished drawing, she colored the big apple purple.  She liked it so much that she proudly showed it to her dad.  To her surprise, her father shouted at her, “What in the world are you doing?  Why did you color the apple purple?  I have never seen a purple apple in my life!”  His tone was that of ridicule.  Tears were streaming down June’s face, but her father never noticed.

As a grown-up, although highly intelligent and competent, June did not think much of herself.  She was always very hard on herself.  She would criticize herself harshly before anyone else had a chance.  This, of course, was rooted in her father being critical and non-supportive of her. During reprogramming, I suggested that she “see” a different picture when she presented a purple apple to her father.

Instead of ridiculing her, her father greeted her with a big smile and compliment, “What a beautiful apple!  Purple!  I’ve never seen such a beautiful apple in my life!  You are so creative, my darling!”  June proudly smiled and continued to draw more purple apples….

As you can see, past-life therapy is not only used to deal with traumatic experiences in previous lives, it is also used to reprogram unpleasant experiences in this lifetime.  Whatever might come up during a therapy session, depends on what is significant to you subconsciously.  The past-life therapist simply acts as a chauffeur.  The chauffeur’s job is to ensure that you have a safe ride, but you are the one who decides where you want to go.

In the next article (the final article of this series), I will share with you tips on how you can prepare yourself for past-life therapy, and “unstick” and heal the seemingly stubborn physical, emotional and spiritual traumas.  Stay tuned.

Holistic health consultation including nutritional counseling, herbal therapy, psychological counseling, and past-life therapy is available to individuals or family.  For more information or to make an appointment, please call us at (818) 472-2213.  Website: www.drjsbest.com, Facebook fan page: www.fb.com/drjsbest.com

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In the previous article, I mentioned that when you experience fear of failure or fear of success, you act on undetected weaknesses, negative emotions, lack of self love, lack of confidence, and low self esteem.   Even though you chose to stay in your comfort zone, you don’t necessarily enjoy the status quo.

So, how does one break through the cocoon and enjoy the freedom and color of a butterfly?  The following are successful strategies to break the negative pattern of self-sabotage and set you free:

1.  Change your thinking:

Instead of thinking “This is too hard.  I can’t handle it!”  The counter thought is “This is challenging.  Let me see what I can do.  With divine guidance, I believe that everything will be worked out.”  When you think positively, the universe will obligate itself to bring you solutions!

2.  Focus on the “silver lining:”

Every cloud has a silver lining.  Think back on the times when you thought “This is the end of the world.”  In most cases, everything still worked itself out in the end (you’re still here reading this, for example).  In fact, when you look back, you might even say, “It’s a blessing that the ‘bad’ situation happened!”  When you focus on the positive thoughts, your mind has no room for the negative emotions.

3.  Increase self-love:

Self-love is the foundation of all healing!  What is self-love?  Treat yourself as the top priority in your life!  For example, budget money and allocate time for your health, your total well-being, and quality of life.  Treat yourself to such things as periodic massage, manicure, healthy eating, and regular exercise because you deserve it!  Any deviations would indicate that you don’t really love yourself.  When you love yourself, you feel strong and unstoppable.  When you don’t love yourself, you feel weak and easily defeated.  Life is a matter of choice.  Which choice would you prefer?

4.  Increase self-confidence:

Confidence comes from experience and knowledge.  The more experiences you have in life, the more wisdom and confidence you will accumulate.  You learn and grow from every life experience.  The harder the life situation, the more you will learn, grow, and expand.  So, when the hardship arises, you will tell yourself with confidence, “This too, shall pass!” When you can reach that state of mind, you will be able to experience serenity in the midst of a storm.

5.  Increase self-esteem:

If you can accomplish all of the above, it is inevitable that your self-esteem will increase.  You will not need negative attention by being sick, or indulging in complaints, or being overweight to protect yourself.  You are the master of your emotions; you can keep them under control.  You will not override your integrity to sabotage yourself!

For telephone consultation on holistic treatment for fear of success or fear of failure, or various health issues such as yeast-free nutrition, herbal detox, hormonal imbalance, weight control, stress management, and spiritual counseling, please call (800) 715-3053, or (818) 472-2213, or send an e-mail to drj@drjsbest.com.  Consultation sessions over Skype are also available.  Skype name: academyofvibranthealth.  For more information, visit our website: www.drjsbest.com.

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Do you “sabotage” yourself at times?  If you do, don’t despair!  You can change this bad habit.

Through working with clients from all walks of life, I have found that self-sabotage behavior is very common due to fear of failure or fear of success.

When fear of failure is engulfing you, you might say to yourself:

“I can’t handle this!”

“This is too hard!”

“This is the worst thing ever!”

“This is the end of the world!”

Engaging in this kind of thought pattern will stifle your innate intelligence and weaken your problem solving ability.

Another kind of fear which leads to self-sabotage is fear of success.  When this kind of fear tip toes around you, you might say to yourself:

“When I am rich, I won’t have real friends.  People come to me because they want my money!”

“When I am famous, I won’t have genuine friends.  People surround me because they want to borrow my image.”

“When I am rich and famous, I would be too busy.  I won’t have time for myself.”

“When I am healthy, I won’t be able to get the attention while I am sick.”

“When I am slim and attractive, I might attract the wrong kind of people.”

The list goes on.

Both types of fears act on undetected weakness, negative emotions, lack of self love, lack of confidence, and low self esteem.   Even though you chose to stay in your comfort zone, you don’t necessarily enjoy the status quo.

In the next article, I will discuss how to break the cocoon and enjoy the freedom and colorful life of a butterfly.  Stay tuned!

For telephone consultation on holistic treatment for fear of success or fear of failure, or various health issues such as yeast-free nutrition, herbal detox, hormonal imbalance, weight control, stress management, and spiritual counseling, please call (800) 715-3053 , or (818) 472-2213, or send an e-mail to drj@drjsbest.com.  Consultation sessions over Skype are also available.  Skype name: academyofvibranthealth.  For more information, visit our website: www.drjsbest.com.

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