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In the previous article, I mentioned that when you experience fear of failure or fear of success, you act on undetected weaknesses, negative emotions, lack of self love, lack of confidence, and low self esteem.   Even though you chose to stay in your comfort zone, you don’t necessarily enjoy the status quo.

So, how does one break through the cocoon and enjoy the freedom and color of a butterfly?  The following are successful strategies to break the negative pattern of self-sabotage and set you free:

1.  Change your thinking:

Instead of thinking “This is too hard.  I can’t handle it!”  The counter thought is “This is challenging.  Let me see what I can do.  With divine guidance, I believe that everything will be worked out.”  When you think positively, the universe will obligate itself to bring you solutions!

2.  Focus on the “silver lining:”

Every cloud has a silver lining.  Think back on the times when you thought “This is the end of the world.”  In most cases, everything still worked itself out in the end (you’re still here reading this, for example).  In fact, when you look back, you might even say, “It’s a blessing that the ‘bad’ situation happened!”  When you focus on the positive thoughts, your mind has no room for the negative emotions.

3.  Increase self-love:

Self-love is the foundation of all healing!  What is self-love?  Treat yourself as the top priority in your life!  For example, budget money and allocate time for your health, your total well-being, and quality of life.  Treat yourself to such things as periodic massage, manicure, healthy eating, and regular exercise because you deserve it!  Any deviations would indicate that you don’t really love yourself.  When you love yourself, you feel strong and unstoppable.  When you don’t love yourself, you feel weak and easily defeated.  Life is a matter of choice.  Which choice would you prefer?

4.  Increase self-confidence:

Confidence comes from experience and knowledge.  The more experiences you have in life, the more wisdom and confidence you will accumulate.  You learn and grow from every life experience.  The harder the life situation, the more you will learn, grow, and expand.  So, when the hardship arises, you will tell yourself with confidence, “This too, shall pass!” When you can reach that state of mind, you will be able to experience serenity in the midst of a storm.

5.  Increase self-esteem:

If you can accomplish all of the above, it is inevitable that your self-esteem will increase.  You will not need negative attention by being sick, or indulging in complaints, or being overweight to protect yourself.  You are the master of your emotions; you can keep them under control.  You will not override your integrity to sabotage yourself!

For telephone consultation on holistic treatment for fear of success or fear of failure, or various health issues such as yeast-free nutrition, herbal detox, hormonal imbalance, weight control, stress management, and spiritual counseling, please call (800) 715-3053, or (818) 472-2213, or send an e-mail to drj@drjsbest.com.  Consultation sessions over Skype are also available.  Skype name: academyofvibranthealth.  For more information, visit our website: www.drjsbest.com.

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Do you “sabotage” yourself at times?  If you do, don’t despair!  You can change this bad habit.

Through working with clients from all walks of life, I have found that self-sabotage behavior is very common due to fear of failure or fear of success.

When fear of failure is engulfing you, you might say to yourself:

“I can’t handle this!”

“This is too hard!”

“This is the worst thing ever!”

“This is the end of the world!”

Engaging in this kind of thought pattern will stifle your innate intelligence and weaken your problem solving ability.

Another kind of fear which leads to self-sabotage is fear of success.  When this kind of fear tip toes around you, you might say to yourself:

“When I am rich, I won’t have real friends.  People come to me because they want my money!”

“When I am famous, I won’t have genuine friends.  People surround me because they want to borrow my image.”

“When I am rich and famous, I would be too busy.  I won’t have time for myself.”

“When I am healthy, I won’t be able to get the attention while I am sick.”

“When I am slim and attractive, I might attract the wrong kind of people.”

The list goes on.

Both types of fears act on undetected weakness, negative emotions, lack of self love, lack of confidence, and low self esteem.   Even though you chose to stay in your comfort zone, you don’t necessarily enjoy the status quo.

In the next article, I will discuss how to break the cocoon and enjoy the freedom and colorful life of a butterfly.  Stay tuned!

For telephone consultation on holistic treatment for fear of success or fear of failure, or various health issues such as yeast-free nutrition, herbal detox, hormonal imbalance, weight control, stress management, and spiritual counseling, please call (800) 715-3053 , or (818) 472-2213, or send an e-mail to drj@drjsbest.com.  Consultation sessions over Skype are also available.  Skype name: academyofvibranthealth.  For more information, visit our website: www.drjsbest.com.

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